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Apr 15, 2020 | Friendship

How Can Relationships be Bad and a Quiz to Decide


Written by KaylaJayne

“How much time should you spend with friends?”
“When I disagree with my friends, I don’t want to argue, but…what do you do instead of argue?
“Why is it bad to have a friend the opposite gender?”

How can a      
be bad?      

This is a big question. I’ll try to break it down as simply as I can with a few simple questions to determine whether a relationship is bad or not…here’s a little quiz to help you evaluate:

Is my relationship bad

1. Is the relationship enhancing your relationship with Jesus?


 A little bit.


2. Does the relationship make you feel…

 Comfortable and cared for?

 Awkward and lonely?

 Used and belittled?

3. Does your friend get along with your family?


 Sometimes, but not really.

 They avoid them at all costs…

4. Is your friend respectful of your time?




5. Does your friendship feel well balanced?

Yes, my friend gives me as much time as I give them.

Kind of…I have to put a lot in and I feel like I get a little time back…

No, it feels like I pour everything in and get nothing in return

Walk with the wise and become wise, for a companion of fools suffers harm.
– Proverbs 13:20

If you answered Yes to all of the questions, your relationship is a good relationship. Praise Jesus that you have such a caring and respectful friend – they are truly a gift for you!!!

Now, while we can’t expect our relationships to be perfectly balanced like this, we can expect our Christian friends to fulfill some of these, some of the time. When they don’t, then we need to re-evaluate how we are responding – making sure that we are treating them with a servant’s heart. This is not to say that anything you did caused them to treat you less than Jesus would, it just gives us a stronger push to treat them MORE as Jesus would.

If you answered any of the bottom answers, your friendship needs to be evaluated or maybe you need to evaluate how you are looking at the friendship. It sounds like this friendship is unhealthy and either needs to be cut off, or you need to look at it as a ministry instead of friendship.

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