
Navigating the Tough Parts of Friendship


Written by KaylaJayne
Humans are a sinful bunch, by nature, everyone makes mistakes, insults, hurts, ignores, looks out only for themselves. It takes a radical friend to really look beyond themselves 90% of the time.
each of us has turned to our own way;
and the Lord has laid on him
the iniquity of us all.
I would say that 70% of friendship has to do with expectations. When you lower your expectations of people, you are less likely to be hurt by them.
Don’t let this go in the wrong direction though and become bitter about people. Bitterness is expectations that are TOO low. There is a happy medium that you need to find in order to functionally do friendship.
When you lower your expectations, you WILL lessen your “hurt time” when friends hurt you.
Why do friends hurt/harm other friends?
Simple answer, because people are selfish. A lot of time hurt comes from expectations that are too high (there it is again) or because the friend that is doing the hurting is insecure about something. They are looking out for themselves and ignoring or are oblivious to the fact that they are deeply wounding a friend. It’s hard to fully answer that question because there isn’t just one answer across the board. It varies on the person and the situation, but the basic answer is because humans are selfish.
How can you avoid being hurt like this? By being understanding. By knowing, it is not you. You can rest secure that Jesus is your defender, your lover, and your never-leaving friend. Pray for that friend, pray that they would find happiness and security wherever it is that they are looking and maybe pray that you can find ways to minister to them.
Why do people
not accept me
for who I am?
Rest knowing that you are who you are because you were created that way and that is nothing to be disappointed in or ashamed of!!!
you knit me together in my mother’s womb.
14 I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made;
your works are wonderful,
I know that full well.


Humans are a sinful bunch, by nature, everyone makes mistakes, insults, hurts, ignores, looks out only for themselves. It takes a radical friend to really look beyond themselves 90% of the time.
Why is it hard to be friends with brothers and sisters?
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